Al-Imam Ibn al-Jawzee
(d. 597H), counts as one of the scholars who have widely discussed how to cope
with envy and hurt of the hating people; he advised, “It is from idiocy to face
the hater or envious with arguments! You are only supposed to – if you notice
that of him – relate with him in a manner that brings harmony between the both
of you. When he gives an excuse; you accept, and if he chooses to quarrel, you
forgive. You make him feel the matter is simple; but you must be absolutely
careful in relating with him and must never rely on him in any circumstance.”
He continued, “From the
greatest pay back you would give him is to forgive him for the sake of Allah;
if he goes beyond bounds to abuse you, you must find every means of forbearing,
and the rest of the people will return his foul language in defense for you and
the learned will extol your tolerance. The hurt and heartache he will get from
that physically, and other worries in his mind are so numerous and far better
(for you) than a word by which you seek to retaliate hurt and for which you
hear responses in manifolds! If you ever quarrel with him, you would be telling
him you’re his enemy and then he takes safeguard measures and extends his
tongue (against you). But through forbearance, he wouldn’t know what you have
in mind and then you would have taken care of his problem. But to face him with
something that will turn to affect your religion; he would have been the one
who got to deal with you!”[1]
Source:
20 Ways to Handle Hate, by Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taimiyyah; translated by Abu
Naasir Ibrahim Abdur-Rauf
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