Monday 30 March 2020

How to Cope With the Haters and Envious People


Al-Imam Ibn al-Jawzee (d. 597H), counts as one of the scholars who have widely discussed how to cope with envy and hurt of the hating people; he advised, “It is from idiocy to face the hater or envious with arguments! You are only supposed to – if you notice that of him – relate with him in a manner that brings harmony between the both of you. When he gives an excuse; you accept, and if he chooses to quarrel, you forgive. You make him feel the matter is simple; but you must be absolutely careful in relating with him and must never rely on him in any circumstance.”

He continued, “From the greatest pay back you would give him is to forgive him for the sake of Allah; if he goes beyond bounds to abuse you, you must find every means of forbearing, and the rest of the people will return his foul language in defense for you and the learned will extol your tolerance. The hurt and heartache he will get from that physically, and other worries in his mind are so numerous and far better (for you) than a word by which you seek to retaliate hurt and for which you hear responses in manifolds! If you ever quarrel with him, you would be telling him you’re his enemy and then he takes safeguard measures and extends his tongue (against you). But through forbearance, he wouldn’t know what you have in mind and then you would have taken care of his problem. But to face him with something that will turn to affect your religion; he would have been the one who got to deal with you!”[1]

Source: 20 Ways to Handle Hate, by Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taimiyyah; translated by Abu Naasir Ibrahim Abdur-Rauf


[1] Sayd al-Khatir pg 740 by al-Imam Ibn al-Jawzee

Sunday 29 March 2020

The Numerous Blessings of Patience


Allaah has made patience like a horse that never gets tired, an army that can never be defeated and a well-fortified fortress that can never be destroyed. Patience is a mount that whoever rides it will never go astray. Patience and victory are twin brothers. The Prophet (may Allaah exalt his mention and render him safe from evil) said: “Victory comes with patience.[1] Patience is of more help to the one who has it than men, as it helps without any need for equipment or numbers; and the status of patience in relation to victory is like the status of the head in relation to the body. It is the means of salvation and success. It is the virtue a person needs in his religion and worldly life. The state of a man is either he has to be patient over something that is obligatory upon him to comply with or implement, or a prohibition that is obligatory upon him to eschew and abandon, or a decree which he has to be patient over or a blessing, which he must express gratitude to the One Who blessed him with it.

If these states are inseparable from him, it means that patience is obligatory until death. Life cannot be upright without patience; it is the cure for the problems of this abode of affliction. Patience is the provision of the fighter when victory is delayed and not forthcoming; the provision of the caller when people delay in responding to the call and the provision of the scholar when people consider his knowledge to be strange. In fact, it is the provision of the old and young, man and woman. It was recorded in Kitaab az-Zuhd on the authority of ‘Umar bin al-Khattaab that he said: “We found the best of our lives through patience.”[2]

Allaah has described the patient people with some attributes and distinguished them with characteristics that others beside them do not have. He mentioned patience in about ninety places in the noble Qur’aan; and He attached abundant degrees and blessings to patience and made these degrees and blessings the benefit of patience. The people of patience are in companionship with Allaah. With patience, they will attain the good in this world and the hereafter; and through it, they will obtain Allaah’s hidden and apparent blessing. Allaah has made leadership in the religion conditional upon patience and certain faith. Allaah the Exalted said: “And We made from among them leaders guiding by Our command when they were patient and [when] they were certain of Our signs.”[3]

Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah said: “Through patience and certain faith, leadership in the religion will be attained.”[4]

Source: Patience is a Shining Light, p. 7-8 by Shaykh Muhammad Saalih al-Munajjid. Translated by Abdus-Samee’ Abdus-Salaam.




[1] Saheeh: He is referring to the hadeeth recorded by Ahmad in his Musnad (1/307); no. 2804, al-Haakim in al-Mustadrak (3/624); no. 6304, at-Tabaraanee in al-Mu‘jam al-Kabeer (11/123); no. 11243 and al-Bayhaqee in Shu‘ab al-Eemaan (7/203). It was classified authentic by al-Albaanee in Saheeh al-Jaami‘ (6806
[2] Recorded by Ibn Mubaarak in az-Zuhd (1/222), Ahmad  in az-Zuhd (1/117), Aboo Nu‘aym in Hilyah al-Awliyaa’ (1/50); al-Bukhaaree also recorded it in a suspended form in his authentic collection (5/2375)
[3] Soorah as-Sajdah:24
[4] See Majmoo‘ al-Fataawaa by Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (3/358)

Monday 23 March 2020

Always Verify Before You Conclude: A Pathetic Story



A brother told me that once he stopped by the traffic light. He narrated: “Then I heard the sound of music with a very loud sound so much so that I and the people around me became scared. So I turned to the right and left searching for its source and discovered that it was by my left side. The owner of the car had opened all the windows and increased the volume of the music very high. The people in the cars around him were looking at him and were surprised at the pitch of the volume of music to this level.”

He continued: “I pressed on the car’s horn several times for him to turn to me so that I could tell him that he should reduce the volume of the radio set or to switch it off or to engage it with something better than it such as the recitation of the Qur’aan. However, the man did not pay attention to me in spite of the extent of my alerting him with my car. Then I moved forward a little with the car in order to alert him with my hand. When he turned to me, I discovered he was a young man. He had brought down his door glasses by his left and right side. And he had a dense beard that reached his chest.”

He continued: “I was surprised at the young man with this appearance as he allowed his beard to grow. Despite that, if he wants to hear, how could he hear in this manner that indicates intense audacity and lack of paying attention to the people?” He continued: “I pressed the car’s horn several times but he did not also pay attention to me until the green traffic light signaled. Then he drove off and I drove behind him.”

He continued: “I kept on making attempt to stop him in order to advise him and remind him of Allaah; and to caution him that such is unlawful. And to also inform him that for him to do it with audacity in front of the people increases it in prohibition. This is because it is a form exposing ones sin; but the man did not turn to me at all till he stopped at a grocery store.” He narrated further: “So I stopped my car behind him. The man came down from the car and walked to the grocery store. His clothing was short and above his ankles. He was not wearing his clothing below his ankles. So I was surprised. Then he entered and I said to myself, ‘He will come out now with a pack of cigarette’. However, when he came out, he was holding an Islamic magazine, so I said, ‘There is no might or power except with Allaah.’ How could his condition be like that?”

He continued: “He advanced to his car, then he started it up and the music immediately began to play. I said, ‘By Allaah I cannot bear this anymore. I came down from my car and proceeded to him. I began to admonish him but he did not turn to me. I held on to the door of his car before he locked it. Then I said: ‘O my brother, why do you not fear Allaah? Why are you not conscious of Allaah?’ “You are playing music all this while. And you are playing it so loud. O my brother, if you wish to listen to music, you can listen to it alone. Do you want to compel the people to listen to the music with you? Why do you not fear Allaah? Why are you not conscious of Allaah?”

He continued: “The man was looking at me, and he was surprised as to why I was shouting. Then he lowered his head and raised it while looking at me. When he noticed that I kept on shouting at him, he began to point at his ears and tongue with his finger and indicating with his hand that he cannot hear or speak. So I understood that the man cannot hear nor speak. He was deaf and dumb. I almost wept. Then I lowered my head and I gently put my hand into his car and switched off the radio set.” He said: “Then the man began to use his hand to ask, ‘what do you want? Why are you angry? Thereafter, he searched for an exercise book and a pen by his side and gave me a sheet of paper and pen; and he was indicating with his hand saying: ‘Write what you want’. So I wrote to him thus: ‘O my noble brother, you were playing music so loudly. In a short while ago by the traffic light, the drivers around you were calling your attention. What made me to follow you is to admonish you regarding what you did.’”

He continued: “When he collected the sheet of paper and read it, he lowered his head a little; then he began to agitate himself. That is to say, in a manner of a grief-stricken person. Then he wrote below my words: ‘May Allaah reward you with good for your admonition. However, know, O my brother that I am a deaf and dumb man. I cannot hear nor talk. This car belongs to my brother. By Allaah the most Great, I was not aware that the music was playing until when you informed me of that; may Allaah reward you with good.’”

Look at the condition of this man. Allaah took away his hearing and made him deaf and dumb. In spite of that, he is desirous of righteous deeds. Who knows? Maybe if Allaah the Most High had given him the ability to hear and talk, it may be a means of his destruction on the Day of Resurrection. There are many are among men that would be thrown inside the Fire as a result of a speech from their tongue. It is recorded in the two Saheeh collections that the Prophet (sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) said: “Indeed a slave will speak a word without being aware of what it contains...”

Source:  Restrain Your Tongue, p. 6-8 by Dr. Muhammad bin Abdir-Rahmaan al-‘Areefee, translated by Abdus-Samee’ Abdus-Salaam

Saturday 21 March 2020

Evil Thoughts: A Barrier to Beneficial Knowledge


Imaam Ibn Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him) wrote:

You should know that the fact that thoughts cross the mind does not itself cause harm; what causes harm is recalling it and talking about it. The thought is like a passerby, if you do not summon him, it will go away and pass you by. But if you invite it, it will bewitch you with its conversations, deceit, and deception. It is the lightest thing on an empty and vain soul and the weightiest thing on the noble, heavenly and tranquil soul. Allah – exalted be He - has placed two types of souls in man: the soul that commands evils and the soul that is tranquil, and both of them are hostile to one another. Whenever it is lighter upon this, it will be heavier upon the other one; and whatever this gets pleasure from, the other finds pain in…

The heart is an empty tablet and thoughts are the inscriptions made on it. So how does it befit a rational person that the inscriptions on his tablet should comprise of things ranging from lies, deceit, fraud and vain desire and fantasy that has no reality? So which wisdom, knowledge and guidance will he inscribe along with these inscriptions? If one wants to inscribe such in the tablet of his heart, the status is like writing a beneficial knowledge in a place that is occupied with writings bereft of any benefit. So if the heart does not get rid of vile thoughts, beneficial thoughts will never settle in it, because beneficial thoughts cannot settle except in a place that is empty.

Source: Jawaab al-Kaafee Liman Sa’ala an ad-Dawaa’ ash-Shaafee by al-Imaam Ibn Qayyim al-Jawziyyah.


The Symbol of Success and Happiness


Good manners with the creatures: This refers to dealing with people based on their different levels in a manner that befits them. Every level has etiquette and there is specific etiquette for various levels. There are manners particularly related to the parents; the father has the manner specific to him; likewise the scholar and the leader. A person should also have good manners towards his relatives; and the etiquette with strangers is not the same with his etiquette with friends, close relatives, and the manners with the visitor are different from the attitude towards family members.

Every situation has its own manners: eating has etiquette, drinking has etiquette, riding, entering and going out of the house has etiquette, travelling, being a resident, and sleeping have etiquettes; urinating, talking, silence and enjoyment have etiquettes. A person’s good manner is the symbol of his success and happiness and paucity of good manners is the symbol of his wretchedness and destruction. Nothing brings the goodness of this life and the Hereafter like good manners and nothing brings about its deprivation like paucity of good manners.

Source: Madaarij As-Saalikeen bayna Manaazil (Iyyaaka Na’bud wa Iyyaaka Nasta‘een)by Ibn Qayyim al-Jawziyyah.