Wednesday 17 October 2018

What Makes Children Become Dutiful To Their Fathers


Imaam Ibn Qayyim said: 

Some of the people of knowledge have stated that Allah – exalted be He - will question the father concerning his child on the Day of Resurrection before He will question the son concerning his father. Just as the father has a right upon his son, the son also has a right upon his father as stated by Allah the Most High:  “And We have enjoyed on man to be good and dutiful to his parents.” [Soorah al-Ankaboot: 8]

Allah also said: “O you who believe! Ward off yourselves and your families against a fire whose fuel is men and stones.” [Soorah at-Tahreem: 6]

Alee bin Abee Taalib said [that it means]: “Teach them and discipline them.”

Allah said: “Worship Allah and join none with Him (in worship); and do good to parents, kinsfolk, orphans.” [Soorah an-Nisaa’: 36]

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Be just among your children.”[1]

So the advice of Allah to the fathers regarding their children preceded His advice to children regarding their fathers. Allah the most High said: “And kill not your children for fear of poverty.” [Soorah Al-Israa’: 31].

Whoever is careless about teaching his child what will be beneficial to him and neglected him, such a person has indeed done a great harm to the child. The corruption of most children came from the fathers, their carelessness and abandonment of teaching them the obligations and recommendations of the religion. So, they wasted them while at their tender age and as such, the children may not benefit themselves or their fathers in their old age. One of the fathers reproached his son for being undutiful to him and the son replied saying: “Dear father, you were undutiful to me while I was young, so I will be undutiful to you in your old age; you wasted me while I was a child, so I will waste you in your old age.”

Source: Tuhfah al-Mawdood bi Ahkaam al-Mawlood, p.200-201 by Ibn Qayyim al-Jawziyyah



[1] Recorded by Aboo Daawood (3544)

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